My journey to Peaceful Parenting stems from my own experience as a mother, from being parented with a combination of both traditional and peaceful styles, as well as my experience of 15+ years as a public school teacher.
When my son was born, I realized quickly he was both highly sensitive and highly spirited. As he grew and developed, it quickly became obvious that “traditional” or “old school” methods of raising children, such as punitive punishment, shaming, yelling, & demanding were not working. They were doing more harm than good to him as well as to our relationship, and simply didn’t sit right in my gut. So I turned inwardly to all the background I had had on psychology, spirituality, and mind retraining, mixed them all together and what emerged was Peaceful Parenting. I also learned that there were many others out there that felt the same way as I did, that parenting with love, connection and respect were more effective, served the family and society better in the long run, and just felt more right.
In my last career as a middle and school/high school teacher, I saw first hand the importance of learning to communicate and parent through connection and respect. We live in a different world now, way different then when we were growing up, or our parents or grandparents were growing up. We live in a digital age where communication breakdown is very common despite the technological advances that would make it otherwise. As parents, we need to step up our game and teach and connect with our children from the very beginning (meaning babyhood/toddlerhood/preschool age). Too often I sat in on parent conferences as a high school teacher with parents who said to me “I can’t make him/her do what I say anymore. He/she is bigger and stronger than me and I have lost control. They are slipping away from me making terrible choices and I don’t know what to do about it anymore”. I strive to work with parents starting at the pre-school level, teaching them there is a different way of parenting. This parenting generation needs less controlling, “do as I say, not as I do”, punitive, fear-based parenting, and more connection-based, “get to the root of the need instead of just addressing the current behavior” style parenting. Just as computer operating systems need constant updates and improvements, so do our parent operating systems, or we too will be antiquated and outdated.
This parenting path does require a lot of patience, support, sense of humor, and self-reflection. Many parents are surprised when they take one of my courses and realize the techniques I use are just as suitable for improving communication with their partners, coworkers, friends, and lead to loads of self-discovery and personal growth. We can’t be successful adults and citizens and parents if we haven’t worked out our own “dramas” and found some sense of inner peace.
My goal is to help you learn how to parent from a place of personal power, love, peace and respect. No yelling or hitting necessary. I can give you the tools you need to start TODAY to pave the way for a more harmonious interaction with your family. I am available for individual coaching sessions where we can tailor a package to fit you and your family’s needs. I also frequently give workshops and classes in the Coral Springs/Margate/Coconut Creek area. Please contact me to find out the date for the next Peaceful Parenting class or to schedule your complimentary initial consultation at Martha@zenmamalove.com, or call at (305)968-3735.