Ever since I was a very young age I felt I was different, didn’t quite fit in. A lot of that has to do with being a highly sensitive person (which I wish I would have known growing up!). I have been interested and studied all things pertaining to metaphysics (energy work, meditation, visualization, crystals, chakras, auras, dreams), inner-reflection/mindfulness, relationships, world religions, mythology, and psychology since I was about 8 years old. I have been a teacher for as long as I can remember, professionally for over 25 years. I have taught everything from Social Studies, to Spanish, to all forms of music, dance and theatre. My students have ranged from ages 3 to 83. It’s safe to say I have seen all types of students and parents.
Because of that I feel blessed to have had so many opportunities to learn and grow from those around me. In my last career as a middle school/high school teacher, I have seen firsthand the importance of learning to communicate and parent through connection and respect. We live in a different world now, way different then when we were growing up, or our parents or grandparents were growing up. We live in a digital age where communication breakdown is very common despite the technological advances that would make it otherwise. As parents, we need to step up our game and teach and connect with our children from the very beginning (meaning babyhood/toddlerhood/preschool age). Too often I sat in on parent conferences as a high school teacher with parents who said to me “I can’t make him/her do what I say anymore. He/she is bigger and stronger than me and I have lost control. They are slipping away from me making terrible choices and I don’t know what to do about it anymore”. I strive to work with parents starting at the pre-school level, teaching them there is a different way of parenting. This generation would benefit from less controlling, “do as I say, not as I do”, punitive, fear-based parenting, and more connection-based, “get to the root of the need instead of just addressing the current behavior” style parenting. Just as computer operating systems need constant updates and improvements, so do our parent operating systems, or we too will be antiquated and outdated.
This of course requires a lot of patience, support, sense of humor, and self-reflection. We can’t be successful adults and citizens and parents if we haven’t worked out our own “dramas” and found some sense of inner peace. Before we help others, we must be honest with ourselves and where we are in our own evolution. So, to me, inner peace is the beginning and end of it all, of this journey we are all on. Without peace, we have nothing. We can’t have healthy relationships with anyone until with have one with ourselves.
About 15 years ago, I was called to learning everything I could about birth. Even before I was remotely ready to have a child, I began taking classes, becoming friends with midwives (thank you, Corina Fitch!), and reading up or watching anything birth related. I later found out I come from a long line of midwives on my father’s side in Cuba. To me, birth always seemed like a natural thing women did, in most cases, without the need for many medical interventions. When I finally became pregnant, and then had a child, nothing went “according to plan”. Birth, and parenting in my situation was far from easy. I had to overcome many challenges and had very little support in the early days. Because I had lost my Mom at a young age, and had no other family around that could help me, I was flying by the seat of my pants. A lot. So, I had to educate myself, create and seek our resources and support, and just do it. When I needed to learn more about babywearing to help me keep my sanity as well as do what I felt was natural, and couldn’t find any local resources, I educated myself, sought out teachers, and created my own local babywearing group on Facebook. It quickly grew to over 300 members, many of whom I still have lasting over six years later.
It was during my pregnancy that I was fortunate to meet and work with my own extremely caring and compassionate doula, Katie DeCicco. I learned I had a calling in birthwork to help women, to support women on their birth journeys before, during and beyond. I never wanted another woman to feel as lost and alone as I did during those early stages of motherhood. And thus began my journey into doulahood and birthwork.
So now that I have come into my own, I am creating my own reality. This is my life, my job, my world, my family. This is “what I do”. And I’d be honored to walk with you down your path to greatness…