About Me

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I am sometimes a teacher, sometimes a student, always passionate about truth, love, peace, parenting, music and dance.  I hope to help, inspire and heal as many people as possible through my work.

Ever since I was a very young age I felt I was different, didn’t quite fit in. A lot of that has to do with being a highly sensitive person (which I wish I would have known growing up!). I have been interested and studied all things pertaining to metaphysics (energy work, meditation, visualization, crystals, chakras, auras, dreams), inner-reflection/mindfulness, relationships, world religions, mythology, and psychology since I was about 8 years old.  I have been a teacher for as long as I can remember, professionally for over 25 years.  I have taught everything from Social Studies, to Spanish, to all forms of music, dance and theatre. My students have ranged from ages 3 to 83.  It’s safe to say I have seen all types of students and parents.

Because of that I feel blessed to have had so many opportunities to learn and grow from those around me.  In my last career as a middle school/high school teacher, I have seen first hand the importance of learning to communicate and parent through connection and respect. We live in a different world now, way different then when we were growing up, or our parents or grandparents were growing up.  We live in a digital age where communication breakdown is very common despite the technological advances that would make it otherwise.  As parents, we need to step up our game and teach and connect with our children from the very beginning (meaning babyhood/toddlerhood/preschool age).  Too often I sat in on parent conferences as a high school teacher with parents who said to me “I can’t make him/her do what I say anymore. He/she is bigger and stronger than me and I have lost control. They are slipping away from me making terrible choices and I don’t know what to do about it anymore”.  I strive to work with parents starting at the pre-school level, teaching them there is a different way of parenting. This generation would best benefit from less controlling, “do as I say, not as I do”, punitive, fear-based parenting, and more connection-based, “get to the root of the need instead of just addressing the current behavior” style parenting. Just as computer operating systems need constant updates and improvements, so do our parent operating systems, or we too will be antiquated and outdated.

This of course requires a lot of patience, support, sense of humor, and self-reflection.  We can’t be successful adults and citizens and parents if we haven’t worked out our own “dramas” and found some sense of inner peace.  Before we help others we have to be honest with ourselves and where we are in our own evolution.  So to me, inner peace is the beginning and end of it all, of this journey we are all on.  Without peace, we have nothing.  We can’t have healthy relationships with anyone until with have one with ourselves.

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About 15 years ago I was called to learning everything I could about birth. Even before I was remotely ready to have a child, I began taking classes, becoming friends with midwives (thank you, Corina Fitch!), and reading up or watching anything birth related.  I later found out I come from a long line of midwives on my father’s side in Cuba.  To me, birth always seemed like a natural thing women did, in most cases, without the need for many medical interventions. When I finally became pregnant, and then had a child, nothing went “according to plan”.  Birth, and parenting in my situation was far from easy. I had to overcome many challenges and had very little support in the early days. Because I had lost my Mom at a young age, and had no other family around that could help me, I was flying by the seat of my pants. A lot. So I had to educate myself, create and seek our resources and support, and just do it. When I needed to learn more about babywearing to help me keep my sanity as well as do what I felt was natural, and couldn’t find any local resources, I educated myself, sought out teachers, and created my own local babywearing group on Facebook. It quickly grew to over 300 members, many of whom I still have lasting relationships today over 5 years later.

It was during my pregnancy that I was fortunate to meet and work with my own extremely caring and compassionate doula, Katie DeCicco. I learned I had a calling in birthwork to help women, to support women on their birth journeys before, during and beyond. I never wanted another woman to feel as lost and alone as I did during those early stages of motherhood. And thus began my journey into doulahood 🙂 and birthwork.

So now that I have come into my own, I am creating my own reality. This is my life, my job, my world, my family.  This is “what I do”.  I specialize in being a Doula & Childbirth Educator, a Mindset Mentor, a Parenting Coach, an Intuitive Consultant, in writing, photography, babywearing, and aromatherapy.

If you think I can help you or anyone you know in ANY way, please reach out to me!

Blessings!!!

7 thoughts on “About Me

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  2. I found this comment interesting: “This generation needs less controlling, “do as I say, not as I do”, punitive, fear-based parenting, and more connection-based, “get to the root of the need instead of just addressing the current behavior”
    It is true and YET I feel most of
    Have gone wrong in thinking the opposite of punitive parenting is soft parenting. Recently we sent our youngest to play therapy and the strongest message I took from his therapist is that being firm and setting boundaries is NOT A BAD THING. But I feel most of us think it is and we get caught up in giving options and opportunities and trying to understand when sometimes what they actually want and need is LIMITS. Interesting. If I later do a post on this is it ok to link back to you? Am new to blogging and note sure on protocol!

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    • Yes! Agreed! I just want to clarify my point is exactly that- what I like to call “Peaceful Parenting” in NO WAY means it is permissive, soft, etc.! Limits and boundaries are absolutely crucial and necessary. I always find myself thinking/saying to my husband “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it”. The tone and looks that sometimes accompany what we say, say more than our words. Children are very susceptible to that (some more than others, but most are in general). And our actions speak louder than words. I encourage taking a moment and pausing before reacting to something- sometimes the words and actions of our children don’t match with what they need truly. People ask for love in the most unloving ways. And often our reactions come from that has been triggered in us and our pasts, and we don’t always react appropriately to a given situation. And as far as options…..they can be useful for sure, giving the child a sense of autonomy (depending of course on their level of development and how appropriate it would be). But too many options can cause stress (again, depending on the child) and overwhelm, and lead to them acting out. I guess it can come down to “is the limit I’m setting for the good of the development of the child, the relationship with the child, or is it simply coming from MY OWN NEED at this moment (which is sometimes okay too, lol!)

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